Thursday, August 18, 2022

Voices from the past

 

“Look at the old Pier pilings! I wonder what was here?” Lisa said as we walked onto the beach.
Today we stopped at a small beach we have driven by dozens of times over the years. It’s only a couple of miles from the main road but our past journeys have always led us by without a thought of what we might be missing.
On this day we had time to kill as we needed to arrive at our hotel in Lubec no earlier than 3 pm.
This late check-in had me searching for places to stop that we had never been to before.
Our stop was Sandy Point beach in Stockton springs Maine.
I was
expecting a nice sandy beach with rocks and shells. The typical Maine beach.
I wasn’t wrong. Those things were all there just as expected.
What I didn’t expect was to see old pier pilings sticking out of the sand and the sea.
They were eroded by time and desperately trying to continue to tell the story they were placed there to tell.
“I don’t know” I said “but let’s go take a look.”
The more I looked it over, the more evident it was that it was not simply one structure, but several, built over a span of hundreds of years.
Some were close to the end of their story with rot and decay taking its toll, nature was reclaiming them.
Others much younger were still holding strong to their place in time.
The youngest even looked like an old concrete structure of some kind, barely visible protruding above the sand.
But what? A look around the beach and the surrounding shoreline gave no clue as to why this was constructed or how long it had been there.
As we walked along the beach, I continued looking at the structure, my imagination running wild trying to figure out what I was looking at.
Lisa on the other hand had a more important task, find Sea Glass.
Could we find any of the small treasures given up by the sea on this beach? Not sure but she was up to the challenge.
We left 30 minutes later with sea glass in hand, and a mystery that wasn’t leaving me anytime soon.
The more I drove the more I thought about the weathered and eroded sentinels standing tall in the sand yet appearing to serve no purpose but to ensure the past hasn’t completely faded away.
When I got home and I started looking at the pictures from our trip, the pier once again grabbed my imagination and the speculation began, What? Why? How? More importantly WHEN?
So, I started researching to try to tame the questions that were nagging at me.
Here is what I found. What is now just a few echoes from the past, was once a bustling and historic location throughout the late 1700’s right into the 1800’s and beyond.
This is a copy from an article about the history of Sandy point.
“Sandy Point was a mail route drop off site as early as 1793, During the 1800’s this beach was lined with shipyards that built three-mastered schooners.
During World War 1 the government also built four vessels for the war effort here. You can still see the parallel timbers embedded in the sand used to launch these massive ships into the bay.
Also visible during low tide is the wharf that once welcomed summer visitors by steamboat to Maine by way of the Boston-to-Bangor Packet.
The more prominent pilings are reminders that this beach was also the location of a fertilizer plant that operated from the mid-twentieth century until the 1970s.”
WOW !
My imagination could never have crafted such a story for this small patch of land and yet there it was!
You would never know standing on that beach looking at those old decaying pilings rising out of the sand, that this area was once so important!
I often wish I had the power to make the lifeless speak. What stories those pieces of wood could tell.
The hundreds of years they have been there silently watching the hands of time slowly ticking by.
The stories of the men working to build the three masted Schooners, or of the Mail delivered in the late 1700’s that came from where? and went to whom ?
Mighty Steamboats pulling up to her magnificent dock to unload those folks fortunate enough to be able to travel to Bangor from Boston in those early days for a vacation.
I’m sure it was the only way to get there at the time.
And what of the warships built along the shore and launched across the once mighty dock system? A dock that now stands as a mere skeleton of what it once was.
Where did they go? What battles were they in?
Yes, the stories we would hear about this very important beach over the past 250 years if only the ghosts of years gone by could spin their tales.
I can’t imagine all that took place on this small little beach over the past 250 years!
A beach that now sits silent, with only a few echoes of the past standing tall, echoes tempting us to listen closely to their story.
A story they so desperately want to tell so that we may not forget the remarkable things that took place on this quiet little beach.

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Here comes Goodbye

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In the 2010 music Video by Rascal Flatts entitled “Here comes Goodbye”. The opening scene shows a man talking to a little boy who is playing with a truck. 

The man explains he had a truck once given to him by his grandfather. The man talks about the passing of his grandfather and the love of that truck. 

His last statement in the scene is “sometimes life just seems like chapters of goodbyes.” 

We find out later in the video that the man has died and the little boy who he is talking with has come to guide him to heaven.

I have heard that song thousands of times since it came out. The actual song references a breakup of a relationship, but the video focuses on the passing of a young woman’s son and now father.

When I saw the video, I formed a new meaning to the song, and it somehow hit closer to home for me.

 I haven’t had a lot of loved ones pass away. Actually,  I am incredibly lucky. Besides grandparents My life has been relatively free from the pains of death. 

When my close friend died in April with no warning, no goodbyes, just there one minute and gone the next. It hit me hard. Extremely hard. 

 Probably harder than it should have for someone my age, but it is what it is. 

Goodbye is a word we all say without even thinking, as we head to work, leave a friend after a visit . In reality we use it casually in our daily lives without giving it a second thought.

I saw the video shortly after Dennis died and it really hit home.

As I reflected on  the statement from the video “sometimes life just 

seems like chapters of goodbyes” the word goodbye took on new meaning.

My life, like yours, has been a series of adventures that have taken me to many different places to live, work and play.

When I think about all the goodbyes I have said over the decades it really does reinforce the quote above.

I have said goodbye to friends in school who moved away. I said goodbye to classmates in June of 1982, many I will never see again.

I have said goodbye to jobs, coworkers, and bosses.

I have said goodbye to towns and neighbors.

I have said goodbye to dear friends as I have moved from place to place. 

Some stayed in touch, others drifted away.

I have said goodbye to pets that had to be laid away after a life of companionship to our family.

I have said goodbye to family who have watched our adventures from afar .

The quote above truly is correct. Life really is just chapters of goodbyes.

Like all of you I have said goodbye a 1000 times over my 58 years. 

Many brought tears when spoken, most did not.

I think the hardest goodbyes to accept are the ones never spoken. 

The ones that you are cheated out of by fate .

When I squeezed my grandfather’s hand in the hospital and told him I loved him as I headed back to Alabama after his stroke. I knew deep down that I was saying goodbye and so did he. 

When his passing came shortly after our return to Alabama, although still sad, I felt closure that I was able to tell him one last time that I loved him. I had said goodbye and we both knew it.

When my grandmother passed away while taking a nap one day at the farm, I was not afforded that same closure as I had with Gramp. 

No goodbye, no last I love you. No final hugs.

The call came in from my father that she had passed and like that, the opportunity for goodbye was gone.

We had so many good times together over the 25 years I got to know Dennis. We were friends that had lasted through major life changes, moves, careers and everything else life can throw at you and yet our friendship carried on.

 Although he lived in Ohio I visited at least once a year. I usually did the traveling since he was over 20 years my senior.

As far as friends go, he was one of my best. 

He was an old school kind of guy and other than a smile he wasn’t big on sharing emotions. 

I remember one of my last trips to see him as I gave him a hug to leave, I whispered in his ear. “I love you man “ 

I think it took him by surprise as he didn’t know what to say. I didn’t let the moment linger as I reached over to give his wife a hug and got into my truck.

I wasn’t expecting a return gesture, I just wanted him to know.

Dennis died in April after mowing the lawn. He sat down for a glass of water and quietly passed.

No chance for goodbyes. Here one second and gone the next. 

So, as I wrap up this ramble, I have to agree. Life is just a series of goodbyes, but it is also a series of Hello’s. 

Take time to appreciate both!

I must say the goodbyes that hurt the most. The goodbyes that bring a tear when reflected on, are the ones that are never said. 

The ones that fate cheats us out of and our right to closure.

So, make sure as you look at your life, that those around you who you value and love, make sure they know!

 Make sure that if there is no chance for a goodbye, no chance for one last hug, no last I love you, make sure they know.

Make sure as you move forward in life. No matter how old you are or where you are in life, make sure those who deserve a goodbye know. 

Make SURE they know how you feel. 

Because you may not get the chance “someday” to tell them and those are the saddest goodbyes of all.

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Lisa Crooker Smith

 Public Service Announcement,



If you are not interested in reading the thoughts of a gushing husband about how wonderful his wife is on her Birthday, scroll on!  

This post is not for you.

 If you are ok with my completely biased opinion on how wonderful Lisa is, I invite you to read on!

And yes, I know tomorrow is August 12, but I hope to being doing something special with this wonderful lady tomorrow, so I posted it today!

 August 12, 1965, the world health organization estimates there were 319,907 babies born on that day worldwide. 

The most popular name for babies here in America in 1965 was Lisa and Michael. 

August 12, 1965, was a sunny summer day with a high of 77 degrees, it was a Thursday.

At 10:30 Pm on August 12,1965 the world became a better place for so many of us as Lisa Crooker entered the world.

If you know her, you know exactly what I mean by that bold statement.

 Her friendly, gentle demeanor has guided her entire life and blessed so many along the way.  

Whether you are a friend, coworker, relative or just someone who has spent a little time with Lisa, you know what I mean. 

The middle child of Bill and Nancy Crooker, Lisa was between younger twin sisters and an older big sister. 

Lisa developed many of the classic middle child traits.  Peacemaker, selfless, worried about everyone else over herself. You know the traits.

She has dedicated her life to helping and taking care of others, often at her own expense. 

Her family is and always has been her top priority! 

So many in our world, including myself, search, and struggle to find a purpose that makes us feel fulfilled, or valued. 


Lisa has had her focus from day one.

Be the best wife, mother, and friend she could be.

Be kind to all and always see the best in everyone you meet!

Although time has passed and the focus of her efforts have changed, the goal is still the same. 

Yes, she is still the best wife, mother, and friend anyone could ask for, but now she works to be the best Mother in-law and Grandma she can be! 

She has widened her circle of love and continues to strive to be the best she can at supporting those important to her. 

Her life focuses narrowly on those who are important to her, all else takes a back seat.

I may be biased but when I look at the past 57 years that Lisa Crooker Smith has been on this planet, I can confidently say that she should be content in knowing that she has blessed so many of us by being a part of our lives. 

I ask you all to join me in wishing this sweet lady a Happy Birthday!

 Let her know she is as special to us as she works so hard to be!

Happy Birthday Lisa Crooker Smith. 

I love more than you will ever know!